UNLOCK YOU - Daring You To Be Different

You did not make it to this place in life by chance, but by God's choice. You were not put on this planet to barely get by, blend in, and be like your environment. I believe you were designed to enjoy an abundant life; a life that receives much and gives much, a life that reaches beyond the limitations, setbacks and the voices of our culture, that seek to shape our lives into less than what we've been designed for.

If I were to ask you, "do you feel like you are more than what you are demonstrating?", what would your response be? You might say yes to that in a couple areas in your life. In your physical body that might mean poor eating habits and exercise commitments have you experiencing a body your not comfortable in. Or relationally you might be tolerating a relationship with a man regardless if he belittles you, disrespects you, or even abuses you, all because you are afraid to be alone.

I feel it's time for an early spring cleaning in your life. Not necessarily a cleaning out of your closet, which you might need, but one where you take inventory of your life and you clear out stuff that doesn't fit the real you and who desire you desire to become. Just like your old clothes, some of your old attitudes, exuses, mindsets and relationships are out of date and they don't fit the best you. The question is, will you keep letting out of date things pile up in your life to where they suffocate and bury your dreams?, or will you choose to be different and let go of the old so you can have something new?

We all like new things in our life, new clothes, new experiences, yet for the new to come there must be change. The decisions I am making in my life right now will shape what I become. Surely you won't cheat yourself by hoping things will change without making a commitment. There is definitely a difference in your life between what you are interested in and what you are committed to. We hear people say a lot, "I would like to be happy", "I would like to be more positive", "I would like to feel better in my body", "I would like to be closer to God", but when you say "I would like", all you are stating is a desire or a preference. We have all said, "I should change, but", "I could change, but", well today is the day to get off your butt. It's time to move forward in your life by not dwelling on the past, but having a new beginning by making a change.

All change begins with a choice. Your choices can change and transform your relationships, the way you treat yourself, your physical fitness, the way you treat others and the quality of your life. You can make the decision right now to finish school, to smile more, to learn to dance, to forgive a person who hurt you, to exercise, or to pray more.

Before we make a decision, we must begin to think what is possible in your life. The Bible says all things are possible to a person who believes. The question is, what do you believe?, and what do you envision? I propose three questions to assist and enable you to move beyond the predictable you into the purposeful you.

Complete the following sentences:

1. This is who I am...
(Make sure you get God's view of you and that you don't determine your worth from your faults, flaws and failures.)

2. My life will be about...
(What do you feel your life is to be about?)

3. I will do this by...
(What action will you take to turn your idea of a new beginning into reality?)

 

UNLOCK YOU - Setbacks  

Is your life going forward without you? Do you currently feel stuck by circumstances or setbacks that cause you to feel overwhelmed and unmotivated, like life is on top of you? Do you feel like life is doing something with you or are you doing something with it?  Today can be a real day of breakthrough for you because I believe your best life is waiting.

Life is motion and movement. If something stops growing or going forward it goes into a dying process. You were created to go forward, not to live in repetition of the past. I am sure you don't care to have a repeat of 2009. When we are stuck by setbacks we constantly re-visit memories of regret, hurt, shame, rejection and pain.  These setbacks not only affected us in a painful way in the past, but are now negatively affecting us in the present and rob us of joy, peace and creativity. 

Setbacks happen to us all, from the rich to the poor, black, white, brown or asian. A setback is defeat or a change to a lower level of living. When we experience setbacks we tend to get stuck, we end up nursing them, cursing them and rehearsing them in our mind; does that sound familiar? But true freedom and growth comes when we disperse them and let God reverse them. You see every setback is out to neutralize you; you might say "what does that mean Rex?", it means to stop the effect and potential of your life. 

I believe you were put on this planet by God to do something BIG, to contribute and help people in a profound and positive way.  That is why you can't stay stuck in your setback. Someone else needs you, your voice, smile, and encouragement. They need your mess to become your message. 

It's time to throw off your setback mentally and get aggressive in your life so you can move forward into the big life that awaits you.

 

UNLOCK YOU - Your Comeback

This really can be the best time of your life where you get back what has been lost; maybe it's your innocence, dreams,  passions, sense of worth and/or your health! Whatever it is, now is the moment to get back into the driver's seat of your life, to refuse to be manipulated and defeated by old habits, setbacks, challenges or negative emotions that have robbed you of the life you crave and desire. I know negative thoughts and feelings would like to talk you out of the change you need by saying it is too hard, you will fail, or you can't do it. So It is important to know that you are not what you feel, but what you decide. It's time to decide to have a comeback, to return to the real authentic you. 

Steps:

#1. Your comeback is possible. It happened for others so it can happen to you. We all have heard the stories of people who turned pain into power. They all have one thing in common, they all believed it could happen for them, even when the odds were stacked against them. It's time for you to believe again that a comeback is possible in your life!

#2. Your comeback is personal; it is a choice and a commitment to move forward away from the past defeats. A choice to forgive yourself and others. It's a choice to commit to a result not just a desire or a good intention. 

Today you can choose to forgive someone who hurt you. Today you can choose to believe God's idea of you over your own. Today you can go to the gym to start feeling better about yourself. You can choose to give to someone who is worse off than you. Personal choice means I am not going to hope change shows up at my door, but I am going to do things different because for things to change I must change!  

So I ask you, what will you decide today to have a comeback in? When will you take action? Your decision to take action will start your new life!

#3. Your comeback is profitable. Who needs you to change and have a comeback? 

Lets imagine for a minute how good you will feel if you began to act in a new way. Your action may result in more energy, feeling better about your body, forgiveness of someone who has hurt you; you would unclog your heart so you can enjoy yourself and others and experience new things. You would open yourself up to love and feel again. 

Not only would you see profitable results, but others will be positively affected by your new direction. Instead of repelling people from you, you will be drawing people to you, because of your attitude shift.

Today's choices are tomorrows realities. Choose to have a new beginning right now. 

 

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CHECK BACK SOON FOR MORE COACHING SESSIONS WITH REX. 

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